How to know if it’s time to try a new therapist?

While being in therapy can bring so many positive changes to our lives, there may come a time when it feels like you’re in need of a change. This is fairly common as our needs are constantly changing as individuals as we grow and learn. However, it can feel confusing or challenging to figure out when and why we might want to try a different therapist. These situations can often create some murky feelings and grey area, which can make the process all the more difficult. We thought it might be helpful to list out some reasons to shift as well as identify steps to a therapist change in order to provide some guidance and clarity. 

Reasons to try a different therapist;

1. You’re feeling stuck: this is a really common reason for individuals to change up their provider. Feeling stagnant, bored, or a progress plateau can be frustrating and an indicator that a fresh start may provide different options and results. 

2. Feeling judged: therapy is meant to be a nonjudgemental space for people to explore their thoughts and feel their emotions authentically. If you are feeling hesitant to disclose these thoughts and feelings due to your therapist’s reaction, it may be helpful to consider other options, you deserve an emotionally safe space.

3. Values misalignment: regardless if it is political, spiritual, or cultural, if you feel as though your values aren’t being heard or considered in a therapeutic space, it is more than okay to part ways.  

4. Boundary crossing: if you feel like your therapist is crossing boundaries or making you uncomfortable (and not in a safe way), we recommend terminating services. 

5. Style clashes: therapists are all different and use different techniques and approaches. Therapists are trained to accept that not everyone will be a good fit for their style. We want what’s best for you, and sometimes we might not be a good fit, and there is a therapist out there who is. 

6. Lack of relationship: if you feel like your therapist isn’t invested in you as a person, this may also be a sign of needing a different therapist. It isn’t your job to interest your therapist, it is their job to be present for you and cultivate a space where you feel like you belong. 

How to transition out of therapy;

1. Acknowledge your concerns: if your therapist is a safe space for you, try bringing up your concerns. This can be helpful in collaborative relationships with a therapist whom you may want to continue working with but just might need some adjustments. This step isn’t necessary for every situation.

2. Try to be direct: you can always send an email or leave a message if that is helpful. Let the therapist know you will not be moving forward and would like to cancel all future sessions. 

3. Asking for referrals: in many cases, therapists are quite receptive to the client termination process. Your therapist may have a referral for your next steps and could provide a new option if that is something you’re interested in. If not, asking other healthcare providers or even friends/family if they have options may ensure a good fit. 

We know the therapeutic process can be challenging especially if you are feeling uncomfortable. At Chase Wellness, PLLC we offer free 15 minute consultations with our therapists to check if we are a good fit and to answer any questions. We always prioritize your needs in therapy and respect your choices and autonomy.